In The trenches?

Hello, for today’s blog… a rant! Let me begin by saying yes, I know not ALL men. This topic stems from personal experience and those shared with me by my friends. What even is dating in today’s society? It’s a trap! Do not enter the field if you don’t have a damn strategy, or if you are faint of heart. Totally over exaggerating… a little. Most importantly DO NOT put all your eggs in one basket! Most of us women tend to give the boot to our contenders as soon as we meet someone we really like, but that’s not the way to do it! Men, again, not all, tend to be liars from the beginning, okay? They’re going to say whatever makes them look good on paper, whatever is going to get them what they want. And usually, they only want one fucking thing. So, keep your options open until you are 10000000000% sure of your final choice. It’s like dating is now another way for people to simply find someone they can just hook up with. Which, no judgment if that’s what you’re on but be HONEST about your intention. Apparently playing games is very popular and bragged about in the dating scene nowadays. GIVE ME A FUCKING BREAK! What’s the point of acting like you’re interested in something more if you’re truly not? I’m speaking for both men and women on this. Not only have I been the victim, but I’ve done my fair share of game playing and looking back now, it was pointless. It leads to absolutely NOTHING. Just time wasted for both me and the person involved. It’s selfish. So, what’s the point?! Why have we accepted this behavior as a new norm?! Of course dating is meant to be fun, but the line is drawn when it comes to playing with emotions, wouldn’t you agree? I saw a tik tok the other day where a girl said “Grieving for all the women who have woken up to realize men’s true nature. Just waiting for the mask to drop.” It is sad to say I wasn’t surprised to find myself and most of my friends, including older ones, agreeing to this. It sucks.

We have also found ourselves in the era of the “sassy men apocalypse”, where men want to be treated like women. I’m going to be honest; I didn’t believe there was such a thing as a sassy man but… they are EVERYWHERE!!! My breaking point was learning that not only is this happening in the life of a lady in her late 20s, but it’s happening to those in their 50s as well!  Have we slowly created these entitled, audacity-having, ugly stepsisters?! “I was waiting for you to text me”; “Plan a day for me”; “You’re too busy for me”.  Like BFFR! This attitude is not it babes, BUCK UP! Again, I know not ALL, but A LOT hahaha! I’m not saying we want a street, aggressive mf, NO! A strong, secure man! One who can take the full reigns of dominancy while we surrender to our femininity! Super cuteeee! I’m sure there are some great gentlemen out there, for sure, my frustration just needs an outlet today lol. As I’m typing this I don’t think it’s dating that has gone sour, in my opinion, it’s the people. Unfortunately. However, grateful for the experiences dating has brought me, working on myself and my dreams are my one and only priority at this point in my life. This is not to say I have lost hope in love, or have grown bitter to love, because love is out there, everywhere, in everyone. I’ll forever be, unapologetically, a hopeless romantic. I just can’t help it! <3 These last months were confusing, eye opening, exhausting even! But I’m now more aware of what I want and don’t want to welcome into my life. My friends and I just can’t help but ask ourselves… have the streets become the trenches? Let’s ask the audience…

12/19/24